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I read an article today suggesting how to speak to a little girl. The editor sited epidemics at young ages regarding obsessions for being thin and the importance society places on beauty as being important which leads to negative trends in younger and younger children.

Happiness is... balance and confidence. Practice having these attributes in your life. Instill them in those you love.

This was a short article and how she spoke to a little girl was not the typical; instead of complimenting her on her adorable little self, the editor asked her what she was reading and got into reading a book with her. Basically instilling that reading was important and totally deflecting any interest or attention to her physical self and being a ‘cutie patootie’. 

I have mentioned a few times that life is about balance. Every child and adult wants to feel special. Outward appearance is important in society and being well-groomed and having manners are as important as being bright and educated.. I think. 

At a dinner party, do you want to sit next to someone who has the solutions to the world’s problems with bad B.O., sloppy, boogies hanging out of their nose, spitting while they speak, or speaking loudly and interrupting you … without any social etiquette?

Why wouldn’t you give someone a compliment on their appearance? Can’t you give a compliment on the appearance and also talk about books, intellect and how one carries oneself? This is where balance comes in.

Health equals happiness. To have physical health, mental health and spiritual health are the key ingredients in overall happiness.

If you are aware of who you are and steadfast in what you believe of yourself, under any circumstance, during any time, you will have confidence and strength.

We are human, we are weak, sad, sick, around negative people, etc. some times. But the stronger our value of ourself is, the more strength you will have when you are faced with times of being tested.

I know who I am. I am comfortable with myself. I am aware of my positive and not so positive attributes (which I work on) but at the end of the day and during times where I may have my confidence tested, I think about my core beliefs. I quickly get my confidence back and can carry on. I know I am intelligent and try to look and act my best … and that’s all I can do.

Practicing healthy ways of thinking and living on a daily basis creates this as a habit. This is reinforced by my ‘dressing up’ when I go out, knowing how to act and dress gives me confidence when I arrive where ever it is. I think it is important to give compliments of positive attributes regarding appearance, intellect and demeanor. This is balance and what everyone needs to have balance.

In closing, compliment that little girl on her adorable little self! Let her know how precious she is and also ask her what she is reading and what has she created lately. It’s all good.

By the way, I think that article is basically addressing American socially perceived views of perfection. In other cultures, if you do not achieve educationally or are the strongest in your tribe, etc. then that is what causes stress and a host of adolescent issue. I just wanted to point out, it is cultural as well as social what is seen as perfect and what causes issues among young and old(er).

Combating the ideals of society – correction – MEDIA driven society – is a battle. Do what you can for YOU, your loved ones and all you encounter to create positive energy, confidence and positive feelings of value and importance. This comes from everywhere; Spirit, mental, physical, attitude, etc. Reinforce the positive in all repects.

Thanks for reading … Have a blessed day 🙂

Want to create a healthier, happier world? This is not only a blog, but a group initiative to pray and pass on blessings! Read my first post to find out how you can get involved and be part of this mission to spread joy, blessings and love. Make a difference for YOU and the world:

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What do you believe in, what are your convictions? What drives you? What are you passionate about? Who are you grateful to know? What are you grateful for experiencing? These are the things to pray on.

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I like to pray on the positive. I think it helps to have the positive words echo in the universe. For example, when someone is sick, pray for their health not on the illness. I like to give power to the word ‘heath’ as it is the positive and most optimal outcome you wish for this person not ‘sick’.

It’s a simple little change that allows our prayers and meditation to have a deep profound impact on ourselves as we radiate the blessings outward to others. When we use the positive words in our prayers we feel them all day long. When you think of poor Aunt Edna being sick, you carry with you ‘Aunt Edna being sick’ all day.

When you pray on ‘Optimal health for Aunt Edna’ you carry with you ‘health for Aunt Edna’. Such a small change makes worlds of difference.

These positive words are the pull to the attraction blessings because the words we speak stay in our minds, hearts and spirit. When you recall what you prayed for earlier, you think ‘health for Aunt Edna’ and smile and send out more blessings … it goes on and on a domino of blessings … ripples of positive energy. You feel it inside you that you are hopeful and positive in your thoughts and intentions for her recovery.

You can apply this to your prayers, meditations, etc … Each and every one. This is what is called the law of attraction. I use it in my prayers but my small twist is that I feel if I say, ask for, and give thanks for the positive things, then there is always more because positive energy listens to positive energy.

We are strong when we are positive. Weak when we are negative. ‘Poor me’ is not part of who I am. Don’t be this person. Don’t seek prayer to give you blessings from a needy perspective.

If the universe sees you are weak how can it give you strength? You are weak in spirit and cannot carry to the load of blessings. Find strength for yourself so you can have more and more. You must show you are ready and willing to handle the blessings and not throw them away. God will provide. Show the universe you are worthy. You know you are blessed and can handle more blessing… Bring ’em on!

Give thanks, have gratitude and pray with positive inspiration. I have some examples for you:

Sickness > Pray for benevolence in a most optimal health environment.

Financial > Pray for benevolent blessings of abundance. Pray for opportunities and people to come into your life that will help guide you.

Relationship > Pray for a most benevolent love that creates a soul connection. Happiness, joy and abundance flow out of this relationship that is steadfast and stong.

No matter what the situation is, poverty, unfaithfulness, disease, you will find that praying for what you want to have will guide you to positive blessings.

This is not only a blog, but a group initiative to pray and pass on blessings! Read my first post to find out how you can get involved and be part of this mission to spread love:

https://blessingsgoround.wordpress.com/2011/02/23/introduction-to-blessings-go-round-how-to-receive-a-rosary-from-fatima/

I baked a cake yesterday. I mixed my batter, poured it in the pan and popped it in the oven. As soon as I closed the door it was done … Like I waved a magic wand! Do you believe me? Of course not.

As with most posts I like to include a little something to look at, usually that I made. Here were my 2010 Christmas cookies 🙂 A challenge to make in Portugal. Note to self – Bring more cookie cutters from NJ 🙂

This applies to our prayers and miracles. Miracles move at the speed of … well, miracles! 🙂 Sometime you are answered right away sometimes they take time.

I can assure you if you pray on something long enough there will be resolve. During your time of prayer you will have obstacles, questions and answers. This process will be leading to the miracles manifesting. We have to go through changes to live the miracle we seek. Just like the cake needs to bake. Changes are happening … liquid turning to fluffy solid … oozy batter becoming yummy cake.

You are becoming what you want by praying for it. You may kick and scream and not understand sometimes. Like physically working out, it hurts when you are out of shape but once you arrive to a healthy body, working out feels awesome. Your spirit is the same…. (which reminds me .. I need to get on that! Thanks Christmas cookies!)

Unfortunately for us, we have worldly desires that guide us to what we think we want, however it may not always be the best. Did you ever hear the phrase ‘Thank God for unanswered prayers?’ I’m sure if you look back on your life so many things have changed what you want to have, be, live like … and some of what you thought you wanted you may be super thankful that you never received. (Word up! I am proof of this.)

You are a constant project for God and the universe. He wants you to be the best you can be. You must sometimes be broken to learn the value of something or learn some other lessons before you are where you want to be. Have faith, because God wants you to be happy and have miracles manifest. Keep believing in yourself, and have faith that anything is possible.

After years and years of praying for what I thought I wanted … boy oh boy it was a lot of praying … One day I was inspired to give up my ‘ideas’ of what I wanted and pray for the most benevolent circumstances to have love, success and happiness. Pure happiness.

My heart knows what makes me happy. In fact, the base of who you as a person are, is your passion and your desires, right? So if I can’t find the words, or if my heart knows better than me what makes me happy, I asked it be delivered… and guess what … it was. In magnificent, glorious abundance. *So Blessed*

No I didn’t hit the mega millions 😉 But I did hit the lottery of life. Only one being out there for me and we were guided to each other. He, in his space was looking for the same. I opened my mind and spirit up to receiving the miracles and blessings as God wanted me to have the happiness I sought … without my specifics attached. The miracles manifested. Now my husband and I have the lives we both sought … It truly is nothing short of amazing.

If you can open your mind to putting what you truly ‘desire’  into your heart and spirit asking for your miracles, they will happen. Don’t be surprised if the miracles are more magnificent than you could have imagined! After all, this is the point … be limitless in what you ask. You will receive. When you ask for *specific blessings you limit yourself. God will work out the details. Focus on the big picture. Happiness? Love? Health? *What I mean about ‘specific’ is asking for  a man/woman with ‘x’ colored hair ‘x’ tall’ in ‘x’ shape with ‘x’ bank account ‘x’ education etc. Just ask for ‘your true love.’

Me and my Prince 🙂

To sum it up I asked > No one fulfilled > I asked why no one was giving me what I wanted > I was told what I was asking for was not good for me > I was redirected through enlightenment to request the bare bones, deepest desire of pure happiness and love.  No expectations, no fine print > Miracles manifested in more abundance than I could have asked for with my prior ‘small minded’ thinking. I brought to me through the divine my blessings. I had to be guided to him and him to me once I gave up the specifics.

The power of prayer is amazing. Pray for you, pray for your loved ones, pray for the world. Blessings Go Round has an initiative of praying on a rosary and passing it on to another person. Would you like to join Blessings Go Round the initiative? If you have gratitude for your blessing or need a little guidance on your path, you will benefit. If today is the day that YOU felt you needed to do something positive for your spirit, maybe it was no coincidence you read this 🙂 Please see this post (link below) to get the details. Ten rosary beads are out and about as soon as someone is done praying on it, and you are on the list, you will be sent a rosary. After you are done, send it to the next person … The power of prayer!

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Thank you for stopping by and sharing in my blog. Have a most blessed day!

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My ‘Blessings Go Round’ initiative strives to create a profound and hopefully life changing experience for those who participate. For those of you who read my blog for inspiration or to figure out your path, I hope the information I provide as well as the inspiring true life accounts of the individuals who prayed on the rosaries to be thought-provoking and instill more belief in you for faith, gives you personal strength and enlightenment in your daily life.

If you come from a place (in your mind/spirit) where you are so detached from spirituality, believing in a higher power, or that you have the power to have all that you want, then my blog may seem far-fetched and a nice little attempt to spread a religious message.

This couldn’t be further from the truth. Yes, ‘Blessings Go Round’ the initiative is about praying on a rosary obtained from the very ‘religious’ Fatima, Portugal. And yes, the prayers on the rosary are based in Catholicism. However, I am not here to ‘bible thump’ or preach through a religious perspective. I am just trying to make you aware of your inner voice, a higher power and that YOU have the power to bless. As I mentioned, what prayers and how you pray with the rosary are up to you.

If you find this as ‘mumbo jumbo’ this is not your time. If you are not open to receiving miracles or to think that you can create all your heart’s desires for you, your loved ones and the world around you, then this is not for you. I speak to those of faith, those with an open mind and those who are at a point where ‘something has to change’. I also speak to those who a aware of how true the words I write are and who are aware of the power of prayer… their prayers… therefore, the power to bless.

If you are a believer in the divine, God and the super energy that exists, then you do believe that this energy is in us. God exists in all of us. We and God are one. If this is true, then we have the power to bless. Have you been asked ‘please pray for me/my mom/my dad/my child (etc.) they are in need of a miracle’? Most of us have, at some point, been asked to pray. Even on the news during a tragic event they say to pray.  Why do you think this is? Because we have the power to bless.  As a sidenote: The act of prayer is not religious. It’s meditative and attaches you divine energy. Who you pray to and how you pray may or may not be attached to different religious beliefs.

You don’t have to be Jesus, or anyone anointed by any church as a saint, or even see with your eyes something tangible like turning water into wine or making the blind see, to know you are powerful. Your words, thoughts and actions all create energy that can be positive or negative. You are powerful. You can spread blessings.

A blessings in motion stays in motion! Keep the energy flowing and always give thanks and have gratitude for everything in your life. Pray on the positive. Invite joy, love and abundance to flow into you, through you and to those around you.

Pray for mankind that we may be at peace and for the Earth that there is always balance. Be the vessel for bliss through glorious blessings 🙂

Become a strong link in the chain of blessings … If you would like to join this initiative, please read the first post…and by all means read the entire blog too 🙂

https://blessingsgoround.wordpress.com/2011/02/23/introduction-to-blessings-go-round-how-to-receive-a-rosary-from-fatima/

A Personal Interpretation of a Saint

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I know many religions have Christian a roots but are so diverse but have one thing in common, Jesus being the way to salvation and heaven. I don’t study religion and as I said before not a fan of any one school of religion that I personally whole heartedly embrace in which I practice, but consider myself Catholic but more spiritual. I hope you catch my drift 🙂 It’s complicated… Anyway I know many religions who see Jesus as the savior do not accept saints or other ‘idols’ as part of what they worship because Jesus is the top banana and the only way. I agree that Jesus is the way to heaven but I also believe in saints and other important, at one time, mortals that have proven their divine gifts while on this earth as being part of a special circle of divinely blessed folks who are now Saints.

To explain myself, because I have found people who do not believe in saints and find it almost blasphemous to ‘worship’ anyone other than Jesus, here is how I break it down; Jesus is like the President and Saints are like the people directly under him who can get him the message for something specific. I can explain this as if it were a company. Jesus is the CEO and if you are having an issue with getting your products from a company you want to speak to the head of the logistics or warehouse division – because no one is helping you in customer service and the CEO can’t take every call that comes in. Get it? So I pray to certain saints for certain reasons (since they are the head of the division) and they can help to deliver my message or ‘understand’ my issue because it’s their job, so it gets resolved.

Also, I have discussed Mary (Jesus’ mother) with a few people and don’t really understand how some religions see Jesus as ‘the way’ but see Mary as almost a no one or her mother Anne. That kinda blows my mind since it’s Jesus’ mom and grandma, how can they not be holy and divine?

This is just a little brief way I try to explain what the role of a saint is or who they are when people don’t understand what they are, in my own personal way. Kind of basic and not meant to be over though, but by no means to understate the real life miracles and benevolence they have shown during their life on earth.

How are you feeling today? Grateful? Lost? Seeking your purpose? Are you looking for answers of to just spread positives vibes because YOU are so blessed? Would you like to join Blessings Go Round? We would love your energy to be part of the initiative 🙂 So as I always post the link back to my first post, here it is:

 Receive a rosary, pray and pass it on: https://blessingsgoround.wordpress.com/2011/02/23/introduction-to-blessings-go-round-how-to-receive-a-rosary-from-fatima/

I met an Angel … It was an Angelic intercession almost missed …

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I met an angel who delivered a message to me one day but didn’t realize it … until two or more years later. Here’s what happened; I used to work at a night club and this guy comes up to me and hands me something. I was very busy and never saw him before or recognized him from that evening. So he comes up to me and hands me something directly into the palm of my hand, I thought it was a tip so I was just like ‘Thanks’ and not to be rude I didn’t look at it right away. When I looked at what the guy gave me it was a little black prayer book and inside was written “Anna time for a career change – JC”  Did you just read that? You get it – right? I didn’t. I was like who the hell is JC and what right does he have to tell me what to do? (Terrible right?) At that time I was so far away from any type of faithfully inspired ritual like prayer or giving thanks or talking to God I didn’t even REALIZE what just happened.

A few years later around 2004, I was on the phone with a girlfriend of mine and we discussed religion and faith and spiritually regularly.  Although at the time I received this prayer book I didn’t know what it meant, I kept it – in my kitchen junk drawer… nice right? BUT I know where it was and it hit me like a hammer when I was talking to her on the phone! ‘OMG I have this book this guy gave me … be right back…’ I retrieved it and opened it. DUH it was SO OBVIOUS! All the hair on my body stood on end… JC; Jesus Christ. Weird right? I know …. Very strange. ‘That guy was an Angel delivering a message’ she said… and I knew it.

By this time I had already started praying several months before and as I flipped through the book I added a few more prayers to my daily routine. Now, I don’t know what I did with that book because I carried it with me everywhere. I think I left it in China on a business trip along with a dress… I need to remember to check the closet and drawers better… LOL. I miss that book. Maybe it was left to inspire someone else?? I would like to think that anyway.

So that’s my story, I was visited by an Angel and my point was, we all have a time when things come into our lives for a reason. I wasn’t ready back then, but when I was, it was waiting… my faith, my belief, my hope, my thanks and my blessings. They all came and will continue to come because I am ready. BTW, the story is true. I wish I still had the prayer book. It blows my mind … I have a few more stories I will post those soon that will blow your mind too.

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When I started to really figure out what I wanted in life, I realized I didn’t know what I wanted even more so than before. What I mean by this is, what I thought I wanted and what brought me what I wanted, fundamentally, were two different things. I thought I knew what to look for in a relationship, I had no idea. I thought I knew what success was, again, I had no idea. I thought I knew what happiness was, yet again, had no idea.

Once I started to pray, it was a journey. I began to pray about problems; Why do I have to go through this or that crisis, dilemma or ‘learning experience’. Why me? 

In my next ‘prayer phase’ I started to get inspirations and then began praying for the things I thought I wanted. That lasted a while too… like a few years… Then a momentus shift came. The life I had, had up until that time was one disappointment after another… in events, people and myself for making the wrong choices. I see now that I had to go through those events to get to where I am… But getting back to this ‘shift’… It hit me one day… STOP. Just stop. Stop wanting, stop asking. Too many questions … too many needs…too much trying to make sense. Just be thankful and then the answers will come. Appreciate more. Have gratitude. This was amazing to me. Once I broadened my needs to be something as simple as ‘I just want pure unlimited happiness in my life’ … BOOM! That was it.

The ‘shift’ I experienced allowed me to change the way I prayed. I began to pray for a happy relationship asking for a good, honorable man who loves me completely (and who is easy on the eyes 😉 ). I asked to feel the success that I know I deserve. I asked to be able to manifest joy in myself and other people. I asked for a feeling of calm and comfort as I am guided on my path. I asked for my relationship to be like a ‘team’ that my partner and I work together and help each other to be the best we can be. Do you know what? I have all that and more.

Life is a journey, and for the sake of keeping this short (I can go on and on) I will stop here. Just believe that you can be inspired, live in Joy, Love, Abundance and on the path to fulfillment. Just listen to what you are being told. Stop trying to fill yourself with what you think you want or ideals. Pray and listen. You will find your path. Believe.

If you have been on your personal journey or want to start today it is never too late. Also, consider joining my initiative to pray and pass on a rosary to help spread love and blessings around the world. Believe in the power of prayer. Click the link below to join us. The waiting list has started.

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I was thinking this morning of how much I have been through…and I haven’t been through much compared to other’s personal challenges. I have had my share of learning so many lessons and figuring out which paths to take in my journeys. Through prayer and meditation I have helped myself see the path, and through my faith I see how to navigate the path.

Through my faith and trust in God I have learned how to get through so much. I had many dreams and tried so hard to make things happen …. but not to the success that we sometimes set for ourselves … but I reached success none the less.

Throughout the time of going through the process of trying to reach my goals, I was constantly achieving new goals, learning, gaining strength and knowledge, though at the time of struggle, I did not see it that way. But, only through prayer did I find the perseverance to keep going forward. This was my personal self help through faith. I hope you can understand what it is that I mean because to someone who has not faced challenges or set up goals, it would be hard to understand the struggle, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially. God was always there and has provided. I prayed and little by little I was led from a dark room to a bright sky with a rainbow and golden sparks raining down. It was amazing. It has been a journey … this was NOT overnight.

I truly am very blessed and the more I pray and give thanks the more I am blessed, the more connected I become so that what I ask for gets delivered to me in God’s time and in His way… But can you imagine KNOWING that all will be done? All will come to you and your loved ones? I live with that feeling everyday. I have a small little place inside me that always keeps me calm and speaks to me telling me it will always be for the best … whatever it is. Do you think I felt this way before I started praying? No Way! Anxiety and daily struggles were commonplace. I still face issues (Last week a branch broke my rear window, yesterday I found out my cat has worms…Gggrrrreeaaat) But the strength I have through prayer allows me to stay positive … not stress out (Well, not like I used to … It used to be the END OF THE WORLD, but not anymore.)

When you reach for help, guidance, answers or just to give thanks, reach for God. He is amazing and I’m telling you, you will have sunny days, but without the rain nothing grows. So will you decide to cry over the rainy days or use that day to get something done inside like clean out your closet? This is what I’m talking about. God helps you to see things differently to give you a clearer path.

Prayer is self help and help for those you love. Trust me because I know for a fact. If nothing else you have God and you can pray for yourself and the ones you love. You will find comfort in knowing you ARE doing something. Be the vessel for blessings to pass through.Yes, you can make the world a better place and help to ease the suffering of the ones you love … you ARE that powerful

Please join us and receive a rosary to pray on, for you and those you love or for the good of the world. How you pray is up to you, but in my eyes all prayers are good and will evoke positive change. Be blessed today and everyday! Please see this post to join us! The waiting list has started —->

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