I read an article today suggesting how to speak to a little girl. The editor sited epidemics at young ages regarding obsessions for being thin and the importance society places on beauty as being important which leads to negative trends in younger and younger children.

Happiness is... balance and confidence. Practice having these attributes in your life. Instill them in those you love.

This was a short article and how she spoke to a little girl was not the typical; instead of complimenting her on her adorable little self, the editor asked her what she was reading and got into reading a book with her. Basically instilling that reading was important and totally deflecting any interest or attention to her physical self and being a ‘cutie patootie’. 

I have mentioned a few times that life is about balance. Every child and adult wants to feel special. Outward appearance is important in society and being well-groomed and having manners are as important as being bright and educated.. I think. 

At a dinner party, do you want to sit next to someone who has the solutions to the world’s problems with bad B.O., sloppy, boogies hanging out of their nose, spitting while they speak, or speaking loudly and interrupting you … without any social etiquette?

Why wouldn’t you give someone a compliment on their appearance? Can’t you give a compliment on the appearance and also talk about books, intellect and how one carries oneself? This is where balance comes in.

Health equals happiness. To have physical health, mental health and spiritual health are the key ingredients in overall happiness.

If you are aware of who you are and steadfast in what you believe of yourself, under any circumstance, during any time, you will have confidence and strength.

We are human, we are weak, sad, sick, around negative people, etc. some times. But the stronger our value of ourself is, the more strength you will have when you are faced with times of being tested.

I know who I am. I am comfortable with myself. I am aware of my positive and not so positive attributes (which I work on) but at the end of the day and during times where I may have my confidence tested, I think about my core beliefs. I quickly get my confidence back and can carry on. I know I am intelligent and try to look and act my best … and that’s all I can do.

Practicing healthy ways of thinking and living on a daily basis creates this as a habit. This is reinforced by my ‘dressing up’ when I go out, knowing how to act and dress gives me confidence when I arrive where ever it is. I think it is important to give compliments of positive attributes regarding appearance, intellect and demeanor. This is balance and what everyone needs to have balance.

In closing, compliment that little girl on her adorable little self! Let her know how precious she is and also ask her what she is reading and what has she created lately. It’s all good.

By the way, I think that article is basically addressing American socially perceived views of perfection. In other cultures, if you do not achieve educationally or are the strongest in your tribe, etc. then that is what causes stress and a host of adolescent issue. I just wanted to point out, it is cultural as well as social what is seen as perfect and what causes issues among young and old(er).

Combating the ideals of society – correction – MEDIA driven society – is a battle. Do what you can for YOU, your loved ones and all you encounter to create positive energy, confidence and positive feelings of value and importance. This comes from everywhere; Spirit, mental, physical, attitude, etc. Reinforce the positive in all repects.

Thanks for reading … Have a blessed day 🙂

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